I haven’t found too many people that have inherent weaknesses of personality, or their way of being, that can fix them that easily.
I spent a lot of time when I was younger “working on my weaknesses”. The problem was that I kept finding more problems with myself, and I kept on getting disappointed about just how many flaws I actually had/have.
It finally occurred to me to stop trying to fix my weaknesses. Instead, I began focusing on my strengths and letting the weaknesses be where they are. If they go, they go. If they stay, they stay, and I’ll just manage them.
Focus on your strengths; manage your weaknesses.
“Oh, but I have to be better at this or be better at that.”
Listen, if you are able to utilize your strengths to a great extent…you’re going to be a super star. You’re going to be highly successful, and you’ll probably be very, very wealthy.
Let’s say we have 10 main characteristics about who we are, how we think, etc (10 just for conversation sake). Out of these 10 main characteristics, five of them are good and five of them are not so good.
What do most people end up doing? Well, we spend most of our time worried about the five that aren’t so good, right?
What does that do to the amount of time and energy that we put into the ones that are good and that are positive?
We’re putting all of our energy into what doesn’t work. Most people are not optimizing strengths because they don’t focus on them because they’re too busy trying to fix their weaknesses.
Now some of you might be saying, “To manage my weakness, doesn’t it mean becoming more dependent on others?” The implication with that kind of thought is that whatever it is you’re weak at, you’ll need others to compensate for that weakness.
Not necessarily. Your weakness could be lack of integrity or being late all the time. That doesn’t have to do with anybody else. There are all kinds of weaknesses that we can talk about here.
If you’re talking about a weakness in business, then you don’t necessarily want to depend on others, but can certainly delegate the activity to others and if need be, outsource what you know you’re not good at.
The idea that you need to fix problems to have a better life is incorrect. If there’s some major issue, like you have no money, should you try and create money? Of course you should, but if you focus on your lack of money, that does not earn you money. Focusing on a lack of money is not the answer to a lack of money. If you want to earn money, focus on earning money.
Our minds are crazy! The brain doesn’t default to, “Hey, I’m pretty broke right now. I think I need to go out there and earn some money.” Our minds play tricks on us, but only if we let that happen.
If you feel like there are things you want to get better at, then certainly it’s worth getting what you need from that. I just hope for your sake it doesn’t come at the expense of neglecting your core talents and skills that can really help other people.
What are your top three talents? Or what’s that one thing you are really, really good at; better than anybody you know?
Are there other areas of impact that you can have that might not require what you think you need in order to move forward?
Like, for example, you might not kill it in front of hundreds or thousands of people, but could you have tremendous impact in a small group setting, or one-on-one with people? Or from the safe distance of your computer keyboard or workshop?
In other words, where do your strengths lie?
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